Mike and Gayle Tucker This is our mantra. “I will never intentionally hurt you.” We didn’t begin with this phrase as a conscious principle. It developed through the years, in part, due to a dysfunction that I (Mike speaking here) exhibited in our marriage. In order to tell you about the mantra, I will first describe the dysfunction that gave birth to it. Dr. Scott Stanley and Dr. Howard Markman of the University of Denver have done a great deal of research on communication